Know that you have already established communication with someone at your workplace, especially with someone you try not to communicate with. He is also aware that you are not communicating and you are aware. Then the communication has already started, but in a negative way.
One of the important managerial skills that I encounter in my coaching work and see as a common problem is that we are very weak in effective communication. Whether it comes from the family, whether it is formed later or whether the beliefs and values we have affect them, but one of the indispensable skills of today's world is effective communication.
I have known many people who communicate with each other via online messages from two tables side by side instead of coming together for two minutes in the same office or even in the same room to talk, feel, touch and exchange energy. When I asked why they preferred this way, there were those who said "do I have to meet, talk and share with everyone".
I do not find this way of thinking and this stance solid and useful for humanity.
But everyone is free to think and do what they want.
I do not approve but I can accept it :-)
We generally shy away from communication. Especially communication with our superiors makes us very nervous.
We have a state of anxiety that emerges at such times.
I see this a lot in my coaching work.
These are anxieties such as "what if he doesn't like me", "what if he evaluates what I am going to say negatively", "what if I am humiliated in his eyes".
Barriers that we put on ourselves and prevent us from revealing our true potential. Gremlins in our minds.
We think we are protecting ourselves, but perhaps we are causing us to dim or even extinguish our light that will shine.
So what is the next step?
Feeling worthless. My boss doesn't see me!
He is in good communication with everyone but not with me!
He definitely has a prejudice and problem against me!
Thus begins our desire to be seen. Our desire to be liked.
And the feeling of worthlessness when it is not reciprocated.
However, when I realise that I start to think like this, I can reach a solution with a move I will make.
If they don't see me from where I am, I change my position.
What does this mean?
Firstly, I have to understand the reason why they don't see me or don't want to see me.
It's absolutely nothing to do with them. Don't blame others for nothing. It's directly related to the person. Why am I not seen? That's the question. What am I carrying that prevents them from seeing me? How can I get rid of it? What do I need to do that?
Dear friends, it is important to get feedback. It is very valuable to ask for plenty of feedback about ourselves, to listen to the opinions of those around us about us, to see ourselves and to identify our areas of development.
Remember, our eyes see everything but cannot see ourselves.
A reflection is needed for this.
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